“The best music a parent will ever hear is the sound of his or her children laughing.”
— Unknown
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“My daughter got her driver’s license, and I never see her anymore.”
This casual comment coming at the coffee club gathering last week hit close to home. So I took advantage of it. Being one of the group’s senior members allows me to offer first-hand experience. And share valuable advice. All, services I offer completely free of charge.
“Yep,” I said. “But don’t’ worry. It gets worse. Wait until she takes her first road trip. Then starts giving you directions on how to get somewhere.”
“They really do that,” he asked?
“I remember the time some years ago when Robin was giving me directions to the country church where her upcoming wedding was to take place,” I said.
“Robin was directionally challenged when she first started driving,” I explained. “I was riding with her after she got her learner’s permit one day. I let her drive five miles before she noticed she was going the wrong way. Kept asking her if she knew where she was going. She said she did, so I let her drive on.
After a while, she asked, “Where is the turn that goes to Boerne?”
“Oh, ’bout five miles behind us,” I offered nonchalantly. She did not laugh. I reasoned with her that some lessons are better learned when we’re allowed to resolve our mistakes without help. “Even when your little brother is laughing in the back seat.”
With that, I shared an old analogy about how raising children is like flying a kite. How we work diligently, running tirelessly to get the kite airborne. Then, once it’s flying a little, letting the wind take it up. Using the string to pull back when obstacles threaten and letting it out again as winds lift it clear. Then, one day, when it’s flying high and ready to plot its own course, you have to let the string go. Your job is done. “Just like kids,” I concluded.
“Teaching a child to drive is one of those alternately ‘pulling and letting out more string experiences.’ For them, it’s an adventure. For parents, it’s another gray hair. Or three.”
I also shared the first time Robin struck out on a cross-country trip with her brand-new driver’s license, traveling more than 300 miles from the Hill Country to northeast Texas. In a new car. With her younger brother, Lee. And her dog.
With my children gathered around the dining room table the morning of the journey, I announced, “Here’s your mission, your map, and your instructions. Lee, pay attention so you can help your sister.”
GPS for cars was yet to be discovered. So, for this trip, I unfolded my most trusted navigational device. A Texaco road map.
They watched me draw a dark, heavy line along the intended route. “Now here’s where you might have problems,” I said, carefully detailing the loop around Taylor, turns to navigate at Hearne, and other opportunities for getting lost that would be lying in wait.
“Any questions,” I asked? Drawing a deep breath; remembering Robin’s directional instincts.
Lee raised his hand. “Can ‘Buggie’ go with us?”
“Were you paying attention to the highway changes,” I asked, while adding instructions for traveling with a dog.
“Yes,” they said in unison.
“I’ll follow you for a while. Until your first major turn.”
Down the driveway, they went. They laughed. I followed. I prayed.
At the first highway change in New Braunfels, a convenience store parking lot provided for one last round of “bye” hugs and wishes for safe travels.
I felt good about the trip, until I watched Robin leave the parking lot without hesitation. To the left. When she should have turned right.
“No,” I said out loud.
Evidently, Lee must have said the same thing. Or it might have been the dog. Brake lights came on, Robin turned into a parking lot, circled through it, and re-entered the highway. Going in the right direction this time.
The kids waved and smiled as they passed in front of me. I’ll never forget the look of terror on Buggie’s face in the back window. My confidence of mere moments ago was waning. I was still praying. I was feeling sorry for the dog.
What was to have been a 300-mile trip probably took 500 miles or more. They never told me. I never asked.
Prayers were answered, however, when they called to let me know they had arrived safely. They were laughing, and that’s all that mattered.
“I reminded my daughter of that trip a few years later as she was giving me travel directions,” I told the coffee-drinking confab last week. “They probably made that trip better than I would handle my trip to her wedding.”
“Oh, I know I’ll find the church all right,” I told Robin. “Just allow me one wrong turn. I won’t have the dog to help me.”
She laughed.
—Leon Aldridge
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